Communicating with Loving Clarity | Tao Hands

Master Sha has delivered important teachings about communication - and in particular, how we speak. He has said, "There are at least three ways to speak. Choose the best way."

Another important teaching comes from Shi Jia Mo Ni Fuo (The Buddha), who is noted to have said the following:

If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, and is it kind?

If you pause to reflect for a moment about your life, you will find examples of when problems arose because of the nature of your speech, or how you delivered your message to others. Part of our work as spiritually evolving beings is to learn how to speak with clarity, integrity and loving kindness. Think for a moment about what would happen in your life if your conscious goal was to consistently find the clearest, most loving and effective way to say what you have to say?

This is a very worthwhile goal. For many, a lot of our unpleasant karma is created from our communication. To purify it will require awareness, willingness, growth and tools. We will need to increase our love, forgiveness, compassion, humility, and more. In fact, we will need to reduce our egos. Ouch!

One way we can tell if our ego is involved in our communication is to notice if we are upset, have strong opinions, or can hardly wait to deliver our message. All of these are tail tail signs of something other than complete clarity and loving kindness operating. We need both: clarity and loving kindness.

When something other than clarity and loving kindness are operating, there could be inner disharmony, anxiety or a need of some kind. Again, these signposts are reason to pause and implement any number of techniques to release the imbalances and come back into a state of conscious clarity and integrity.

So let's look at the very worthwhile goal of how we can improve our communication. Here are some good habits to develop:

SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
Most important is to engage in regular spiritual practice (meditate, chant, practice forgiveness, etc.) to purify and balance yourself. This is the best way to move toward the Divine qualities that will enable you to engage in conversations with greater love, clarity and patience.

And if grounding is not your forte, consider doing foundation energy center practices every day, to keep yourself grounded and centered. We have published blog entries on Lower Dan Tian practice and you can also look inside the Soul Mind Body Medicine Book (p. 304 - 307) for a description of this energy center and ways to develop it.

To 1) maintain a regular practice of connecting with the Divine to release your blockages to love, compassion, forgiveness and more and 2) build a strong foundation will assist you in making wise choices in your communications and responses to others.

TOOL BOX
Related to the first point, have a tool box of techniques that enables you to come back into balance when you are thrown off, especially emotionally or mentally, which will affect your communication patterns. We recommend Power of Soul practices and blessings, such as Tao Hands. There are many possibilities. Have your tool box loaded with what works best for you, and be sure to stop and use them!

MINIMIZE COMMUNICATION WHEN OFF BALANCE
When you are out of balance, especially if it involves the situation, it may be best to avoid unnecessary communication until you are "back". Better to wait until balance is restored, emotions are cleared, and mind blockages are mitigated or transformed, when possible. Develop and implement self-awareness and evaluation, and be willing to step back, help yourself or get help, when needed.

KNOW YOURSELF
Learn about your triggers and communication patterns. In the problem areas, practice forgiveness and Soulfulness regularly. If you are one who has "a sharp tongue", for example, breaking your habits could prove challenging. Ask friends and family who you're comfortable with to point out anytime you go there and then implement immediate forgiveness. Observe yourself and do the same. It must be a true goal in your heart to stop hurting people, even in subtle ways, with your speech.

GET COMMUNICATION TRAINING
If the skill of communication is part of the issue, get training and practice. That is, perhaps you actually need to change your vocabulary and become more enlightened about courtesy, professionalism and more. This, along with the spiritual practice and development will lead you down a path of improved communication and relations.

CELEBRATE CHANGE
Finally, celebrate each victory, no matter how small. It could even come in degrees. Maybe you didn't go in as deep as you normally would have! Keep building on success and demonstrating to yourself that you can do it. When you slip and fall, and you will, forgive yourself and practice forgiveness with any souls you may have hurt. Practice soulfulness to clear away the blockages, apply Tao Hands or receive blessings if you can, and know that you are one step closer to loving, clear and effective communication.

Thank you for your dedication to your journey! We are honored to be a part of it.

With greatest love,

Your Tao Hands Team.